Finding Your Cornerstones
Discover your Windows of Wisdom – The Things You Know
- an important quality or feature on which a particular thing depends or is based.
Similar: foundation; basis; fundamental principle; centerpiece
- a stone that forms the base of a corner of a building, joining two walls.
You’re busy with projects, chores, to-do’s, tasks, jobs, errands, and more. It’s easy to get lost in the shuffle. And sometimes the endless expectation to do more is daunting. We need to take the time – or for some “make the time” – to reflect. Time to make sense and find our Windows of Wisdom. These are the moments when something occurred that made a significant difference. There’s a lesson here. But we have to recognize and shine a light on it. Find what is the life lesson – the wisdom.
There was an elite team of four individuals and one of the four was leaving. I wanted to be THE replacement. Among many others who wanted the role, two of us were clearly the next in line. We both worked really hard to practice our skills and prepare for this next step. The day before the “tryout” or “interview” the two of us had a heartfelt and compassionate conversation. We said phrases like, “Whichever one of us is selected, we will honor and value this new role more than anyone else because we worked so hard to prepare for this.” We wished each other well and ended with a big hug. One of us was selected, but we both won in this scenario. We were never petty, caddy, or ruthlessly competitive. We celebrated each others’ efforts and strengthened our relationship. We continued to be strong supporters of one another.
Lessons learned from this Window of Wisdom = Always strive to be a collaborator with others, not just a competitor. There is usually an opportunity to build a bridge and be gracious. Relationships matter.
Our cornerstones are those moments or events where we’ve experienced something significant. In these defining moments, we learn the truth or gain wisdom to help us deal with challenges throughout our lives. Whether you are 18 or 80, all of us have had those moments when we’ve discovered some goodness or strength. It will take some time, but definitely worth the investment. Grab a pen and paper or start a digital file. Here are the steps of the process to find your significant life cornerstones:
1. Create Your Timeline.
Start reminiscing. Create a list of your teachers, coaches, mentors, friends. Remember and record the cities and states you lived in.
Remember and record the friends you had along the way.
Recall and put on the timeline the things you were “into” at different times – Sports, Books, Television Shows, Video Games, Music, Dance moves, Movies, Car models, Field trips, and more.
2. Mark Significant Moments.
Circle the times or moments on your timeline where you were struggling. Circle the places where you had major changes. Note the places where friends entered or left your life. Look for your significant moments.
3. Find The Lessons.
Explore these moments looking for what you did right and wrong. What should you have done? What should you remember? What is the wisdom?
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. -Aristotle